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November 11, 2023

Friends WITHOUT Benefits

By Abbigale F.
, 17
, from Tavares, FL

I want to share my experience about being friends with benefits, because I think a lot of people say they’re okay with this when they’re not.

Here’s my story: I met this guy who’s a couple years older than me, and I really wanted to be in a relationship with him, but that didn’t work out. Instead it turned into us being friends with benefits.

It wasn’t what I wanted, but I liked this guy so much that I started doing things that I knew would get me into trouble. For example, I was always sneaking out at night and would be gone for hours on end. It got to the point where my parents called the cops because I wasn’t listening. I let him manipulate me into thinking that he cared about me and that he had good intentions.

I let this happen for a year and a half before I finally realized: he doesn’t care and he never did. I felt hurt and upset with myself for letting him manipulate me. I kept thinking that I was an idiot for letting him have sex with me but never really seeing me for me.

I know this is a common story, but I’m sharing it because I know a lot of people do this, hoping the other person will feel the same way, believing in something that just isn’t true, and letting the other person’s words speak louder than their actions. Other people gave me good advice along the way, but I didn’t listen because I didn’t want to confront the truth.

So the moral of the story is to stay true to yourself when choosing who you get involved with. I had to learn the hard way and hope hearing this story helps you make a different choice. It hurts when someone doesn’t feel the same about you, but it hurts a lot more to hope they will when it’s clear they won’t. It’s so much easier to move on before you get in too deep.

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