With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of romantic gestures, from heart-shaped candies to extravagant dinners. But let’s take a step back and remember that Valentine’s Day isn’t just about romantic love. It’s about celebrating all forms of love, including the love we have for our friends, family, and most importantly, ourselves.
It’s taken me some time to realize that Valentine’s day is a great holiday, regardless of your relationship status.
I wish I always thought this way. I used to always hate Valentine’s Day because there’s only been one when I’ve been in a relationship. When I wasn’t in a relationship, I felt so much pressure to have a romantic Valentine’s Day, so I’d try to rush things with guys in advance, but it hasn’t been that fulfilling for me. It felt fake and forced. I was only doing it because I’d see so many people posting on Valentine’s Day, and hear about romantic Valentine’s Day plans. I’d always get so down because I wanted to have all that, and if I didn’t, the holiday felt like kind of a waste.
But last year, one of my friend’s offered a different perspective. She said she actually enjoys the holiday because it’s an opportunity for her to express love to the people she cares about. For her, it’s not just about romance, but putting in time for her friends and family too.
At first, it sounded kind of cheesy, but the more I thought about it, I realized I could pay more attention to these other relationships. So I took her advice, and I had one of the best Valentine’s Days ever! I wrote friendship Valentines to the people who meant the most to me, and not only did it make them feel good, it made me feel more loved in return when they told me how much I meant to them too. Whether it’s calling someone you haven’t talked to in a while, reminding a close friend how much they mean to you, getting together with a group of friends for dinner, or sharing a delicious dessert with your parents or playing a game and spending time with your siblings, there are so many things you can do to still show love, even if you’re not in a romantic relationship.
And most importantly, show some love to yourself! Do something you really enjoy. Have that favorite meal you’re craving. Watch that show you’re obsessed with. Go on that hike or do that art project you never give yourself time for.
So this year, go ahead and redefine Valentine’s Day, as I did. Enjoy the love you have in your life. Because believe me, it makes such a difference.
Happy Valentine’s Day!