As spring break ends, I know there’s a lot of buzz around the notorious “girls trips” guys are worried about their girlfriends going on and you can’t go on social media without seeing people telling guys “they’re cooked” when this happens . But I actually learned that I had nothing to worry about.
When my girlfriend, Jessa, told me that she and her friends were planning a spring break trip to Miami, my mind went into overdrive. Spring break in Miami?! Beautiful beaches, stunning sunsets, and of course, the place for anyone looking to completely let loose and have fun. Alcohol, sex, you get the picture. And here’s the kicker – it’s a girls trip.
Normally, I’m not the jealous type, but we’ve all heard the stories about what goes down on spring break girls trips, right? The thought of Jessa thousands of miles away, surrounded by sun-kissed strangers and partying into the early hours of the morning, sent my anxiety levels through the roof.
But then something strange happened. As we talked more about the trip, I realized something important: I trust Jessa. Like, really trust her. At the end of the day, I know she’s got my back. And that realization got me thinking – why should I let fear and insecurity ruin what could be an incredible experience for her?
So, I made a decision. I chose to trust her. I chose to believe in our relationship. And I chose to let go of the irrational fear that’s been holding me back. Because here’s the thing – if our relationship couldn’t survive a girls trip to Miami, then maybe it wasn’t as strong as I thought it was in the first place.
What was great is that I talked about my anxiety with her. We’ve had some real talk about boundaries and expectations, and we’ve promised to keep each other in the loop throughout the trip. Communication is key.
Jessa ended up having a great time, and she couldn’t wait to tell me all about her trip. I also found that because we talked, I wasn’t worried at all while she was gone, and I think this experience strengthened our relationship in the long run.
So I say this: know whether you can trust your partner, and if you can, don’t let your anxiety get in the way of your relationship.